Honestly, it started ’cause I felt kinda stuck, y’know? Just going through the motions day after day without any real direction. Was scrolling around online feeling blah and stumbled across a few videos where folks kept mentioning this guy, Bishop Dan Willis. Didn’t really know who he was, but the snippets sounded interesting. Figured, why not? Needed a kick in the pants.
My Plan For Figuring It Out
Didn’t wanna just watch one video and call it done. Wanted to get the actual useful stuff. Here’s what I actually did this week:
- Dug Up Short Talks First: Searched specifically for “Bishop Dan Willis key messages” or “Bishop Willis motivation” on different video sites. Found loads of short clips – perfect for grabbing bites on lunch breaks.
- Jotted Down The Good Bits: Kept my grubby little notebook handy. Every time I heard something that made me go “huh”, or actually felt useful for real life, I scribbled it down. Didn’t worry about pretty handwriting, just got the idea.
- Tried One Damn Thing: Didn’t go crazy trying to change everything overnight. Picked ONE tip that popped up a lot and seemed kinda easy. Just focused on that.
What Kept Popping Up? The Big Stuff
After hearing the same things said different ways across a bunch of talks, a few core ideas seemed really central to his thing:
- Own Your Life: This one hits hard. Basically, stop blaming everyone else for where you are. That bad habit? Your choices. Your job dissatisfaction? Maybe your decisions led there. Can’t fix what you won’t admit is yours. This sounded harsh at first, but weirdly freeing.
- Focus On What’s Actually Yours: Meaning? Stop sweating stuff you literally can’t control – other people’s thoughts, actions, stuff happening miles away. Wasted energy. Put your effort into your thoughts, your reactions, your next small step.
- Tiny Steps Beat Big Dreams (That Go Nowhere): Everyone wants the big transformation. He kept saying consistent, little actions matter way more. Like, actually doing something small daily beats dreaming big once a month. Real progress comes from the grind, not the grand gesture.
- Where You Look Matters: Related to focus. If you spend all your time looking at what others have (or at your own failures), you’ll feel like crap. Focus on your own lane, your own progress, the tiny win you just had. Shift your damn perspective.
What Did I Actually TRY This Week?
The “Focus On What’s Mine” idea resonated the most. I’m a champion worrier about stupid crap I can’t change! So here’s my dumb little practice:
- Caught Myself Spinning: Every time I felt pissed off or anxious, I paused (sometimes after stewing for a bit, I’m not perfect!).
- The Simple Question: Seriously just asked myself: “Can I actually do anything about this right now?” Like, physically? Logically? Right this second?
- The Split: If the answer was NO (which it was, like, 70% of the time – traffic, other people’s moods, world news), I mentally went “Not mine right now. Drop it.” Took a breath. Felt stupid, but did it.
- If YES: Then asked “What’s the tiniest next step?” Sometimes it was just sending an email, sometimes just writing a to-do for later.
Did it Work?
Honestly? Not magic, but yeah, felt a difference. My head felt less cluttered with junk. Less time spent mentally yelling at idiots on the road or getting wound up about work stuff outside my control. Not perfectly zen or anything! But catching those thoughts and consciously saying “not mine” created tiny moments of calm. Less useless mental drama. Noticed I got small practical things done more consistently because my energy wasn’t splattered everywhere.
The biggest takeaway so far? The core stuff sounds pretty simple, even obvious. But actually trying it, specifically the small, consistent bit and wrestling control back over my own focus? That’s where the rubber hits the road. Gotta keep building on the “not mine” muscle. Feels like clearing weeds so the good stuff has space to grow.
