Okay, so, “tall women and short guy” – this whole thing? I decided to give it a real shot. I’m not super tall, but I’m definitely above average, around 5’9″. And I’ve always been a little self-conscious about dating guys shorter than me. It’s silly, I know, but it’s just been a thing.
So, I actively started looking for opportunities to, you know, meet shorter guys. I used to kind of avoid it, subconsciously maybe. I figured, where would I even find this situation? Turns out, everywhere!
My Experiment Begins
- First step: Just being open to it. Sounds simple, but it was a mental shift. I stopped automatically dismissing guys who were clearly shorter.
- Second step: Going places. I went to a few meetups, you know, for board games and stuff. Figured there’d be a mixed crowd.
- Third step: Actually talking to people. This is where I usually mess up. I get all awkward. But I pushed myself.
I met this guy, Mark, at one of the board game nights. He’s probably around 5’5″, maybe 5’6″. Super nice, really funny. We ended up on the same team for some ridiculously complicated game, and we just clicked. We were laughing the whole time, even when we were losing horribly.
Normally, I might have thought, “Oh, he’s cute, but he’s too short.” But this time, I just… didn’t. I focused on how much fun I was having. We exchanged numbers at the end of the night.
The Date(s)
We went out for coffee a few days later. I wore flats, not because I was trying to shrink myself, but because I just felt like wearing flats. We talked for hours. It was easy. He didn’t seem to care about the height difference at all, which, honestly, made me care about it even less.
We went on a few more dates after that. Hiking (I wore hiking boots, he wore hiking boots, it was totally normal!), movies, dinner. The height thing just… faded into the background. It became completely irrelevant.
The Result?
It’s still early days, but it’s going really well. I’m genuinely enjoying getting to know him, and the fact that he’s shorter than me is literally the least interesting thing about him. This whole “experiment” has shown me that I was letting a stupid insecurity get in the way of potentially great connections. I’m so glad I pushed myself to get over it.
It is not a big issue, * is just so natural. I mean, focus on good things, ignore those wired judgements.
