Alright let’s get into it. Today was kinda interesting ’cause I actually sat down and really thought about this whole kissing thing. You see movies, hear people talk, and sometimes it sounds like “making out” and “French kissing” are used like they’re the same exact thing. But I had this gut feeling they weren’t. So I decided, screw it, let’s figure this out properly.
The Confusion Started Pop Culture Stuff
So it began when me and my partner were just chilling, watching some random show. Couple on screen gets all close, lips locked, maybe a little movement, but nothing crazy. Someone in the room was like, “Wow, they’re really making out.” Later scene, different show, couple gets super intense, tongues clearly involved. Same person goes, “Yep, full-on French kissing.” And I’m sitting there thinking… hold on, that sounds like two different levels happening here.
It wasn’t just that one time either. Scrolling online, seeing friends post stuff like “best makeout session last night!” followed by gifs showing seriously deep kissing. The terms seemed mashed together. I figured, if even I’m getting confused just from watching and reading, maybe other folks are too. Time to get personal and deliberate.
Putting It Into Practice… Awkwardly at First
Last night felt like the right moment. We were relaxed, just us hanging out. Things naturally started getting more affectionate. I leaned in, we kissed. Nice and slow, mostly just lips pressing together, maybe a little playful nibble on the lower lip, our heads tilting side to side a bit. Hands stayed mostly on each other’s back or shoulders. Comfortable. Sweet. I noted that feeling – the simplicity, the focus on the lips themselves, the warmth without needing more.
We paused for a second, just breathing. Then I decided to change gears slowly. Next kiss, I gently asked her to open her mouth a tiny bit with mine. Felt that shift happen. Our lips parted, and I cautiously let just the tip of my tongue brush very lightly against her lips. Hesitated, kinda testing the waters. She responded by doing the same, touching my lips with her tongue tip. No rush. That was the entry point.
The next move took more nerve. I slowly moved my tongue forward past just touching lips, ever so slightly exploring the inside of her lip. Felt her tongue meet mine. This was totally different. There was this new, more intimate sensation happening. We kept it gentle at first, tongues kind of dancing together slowly, not shoving, just moving in small circles. Felt warmer, deeper somehow. Hands started wandering a bit more too. It lasted longer than that initial lip-focused kissing. Had to pull back for air eventually!
The Lightbulb Moment
Afterwards, lying there just talking about it, everything clicked into place. I realized I had experienced the difference firsthand:
- That first part? All about lips pressing, moving, maybe sucking lightly. Close, passionate, but surface-level intimate. That was making out.
- That second part? Where mouths opened and tongues got involved, properly touching and exploring each other’s mouths? Warm, wet, deeply intimate? 100% French kissing. It wasn’t just a more intense make out. It used a whole different tool!
The biggest thing I understood? French kissing requires tongue action inside the partner’s mouth to be French kissing. Period. Making out can sometimes lead up to it, or happen without it ever going there. But they are distinct steps. Making out felt like driving on the street. French kissing felt like we were suddenly flying, even if just a little way off the ground.
What I Figured Out For Myself
Looking back on this little experiment, here’s the real deal:
- Making out is broader – lips doing most of the work, heavy on contact and closeness. Can be short sweet bursts or longer sessions.
- French kissing is specifically about adding tongues into the mix, actively touching inside each other’s mouths. It automatically includes making out elements, but kicks the intimacy up several notches.
- You can absolutely make out without ever French kissing. But if you start French kissing, well, you’re also definitely making out.
- The transition? Requires both people kinda opening up, literally and figuratively. You gotta signal you’re both good to dive deeper.
Feels good to actually know the difference now, not just guess. It’s not about rules, just understanding the moves on the dance floor, y’know? Sometimes it stays sweet and close (making out), sometimes it gets deeper and warmer (French kiss). Both awesome, just different vibes.
